Disclaimer: This article could be a sensitive subject. Who’s looking to take dating advice from a single gay guy? Yeah, I don’t know either. Take this content with a grain of salt and do with it what you may.
Before I jump to a conclusion stating how “dating sucks”, let’s take a step back and acknowledge that love is a wonderful thing. Nothing can compare to the feeling of having a significant other who accepts you for you.
On the other hand, it’s 2021. With apps such as Tinder, Hinge, Bumble, etc., being readily available, daters all around have become accustomed to having many options. We are living in a society where if someone doesn't like one tiny thing about another person, they can leave and go onto the next person. These apps make it much easier for someone to pass up the opportunity to get to know you simply because they don’t like your photos or bio. You know that doesn’t define who you are, and if a person is that shallow to pass up this opportunity, that’s on them. Sorry, not sorry. On the other hand, for example, dating apps can provide a socially anxious individual with the resources they may need to start a conversation. Similarly, these apps can be so toxic.
Someone who is using these dating apps has to be in the right mental state. People will pass you up as if it's no big deal. I have been “left swiped” a countless amount of times. It’s a true struggle to think you may not be good enough to date someone on these apps.
Just be aware of your situation. You are on a dating app with millions of people going through the same thing.
This is where it’s important to take breaks. Don’t allow your mental state to decline, just because you didn’t match with a cute guy or girl. There’s so much more to dating than a swipe left or right. I know how easy it is to get consumed by the people pleasing that comes with the online dating world.
All in all, with the pandemic slowing down, more and more daters are open to being honest about what they are looking for or expecting. Being in quarantine has forced people to come to terms with who they are and what they "are on the market for".
It’s easier to be yourself when dating, rather than pretending to be someone just to please the other person.
Read that again.
Now, I’m not saying I don’t use dating apps. Of course, I do. I have had several relationships grow from these apps. Relationships that have heavily affected me. With these relationships, comes heartbreak and other hardships. What has happened in the past can and will changedyour viewpoint to allow you to grow into the person you strive to be.
Long story short, these dating apps can be a blessing and a curse. Use the advice above to start or even continue your dating journey.
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